Colin Ryan RIP - 17th minute applause

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Hello all

On Saturday Vs Norwich please join in with a minutes applause, in the 17th minute, for Brentford supporter Colin Ryan

Colin and his kids were often on the same bus to games from Hanwell as me, he was a lovely amiable person but unfortunately recently this world became too much for him. He was just 47 years old.

He struggled with depression, many would not have known about it. And men are not very good at talking about mental health issues

Colin’s wife Annie is keen that the applause is used to celebrate his life but also to highlight the issues that many others at the game might be struggling with in silence

Please reach out to someone if you want to talk and let’s keep checking on each other

And please join in on the 17th minute

The club and Peter Gilham have been brilliant btw and that’s something that makes me especially proud.

RIP Colin. Come on you Bees 🐝
 

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RIP Colin. Always very sad to hear things like this.
 

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So sorry to read this Condorman. I have personal experience of living with long term mental health issues including depression. I think its important to highlight the human stories behind this awful illness. Anything that raises awareness and encourages us to be open about our struggles can only help encourage others to talk about their mental health and hopefully seek help. The more 'normal' conversations about mental health become, the less ignorance and stigma will be around.

RIP.
 
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So sorry to read this Condorman. I have personal experience of living with long term mental health issues including depression. I think its important to highlight the human stories behind this awful illness. Anything that raises awareness and encourages us to be open about our struggles can only help encourage others to talk about their mental health and hopefully seek help. The more 'normal' conversations about mental health become, the less ignorance and stigma will be around.

RIP.

Thanks Paul, that’s a very honest and open reply and exactly the sort of discussion that Colin’s widow wants to happen as an outcome of this sad story. I hope you are ok yourself
 

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Desperately difficult for his family to have to cope with this. Life must have been an unimaginable torture for Colin to decide that this was his only way out.
Thoughts are with his family at this desperately difficult time and I will join in when listening in on Saturday

RIP Colin
 

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This is so sad to see for such a young man, thoughts with his family and especially his wife and children.

I've also struggled hugely in the past with depression and suicidal ideation, it got so bad I went to talk to my GP and was the best thing I ever did. She signed me off sick from work, referred me for counselling which took a while to arrange but when it happened, it transformed my life and the way I think about things. I'm not "better", but I'm definitely better able to deal with everything and if you're struggling then I really do recommend talking to someone like your GP or the Samaritans.
 

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This is so sad to see for such a young man, thoughts with his family and especially his wife and children.

I've also struggled hugely in the past with depression and suicidal ideation, it got so bad I went to talk to my GP and was the best thing I ever did. She signed me off sick from work, referred me for counselling which took a while to arrange but when it happened, it transformed my life and the way I think about things. I'm not "better", but I'm definitely better able to deal with everything and if you're struggling then I really do recommend talking to someone like your GP or the Samaritans.
I too have run close to the "edge" after having been through and seen some traumatic experiences. However strong or stable we think our lives are, I do feel each and everyone of us could turn a different corner or whatever metaphor suits you, and suddenly find your world falling apart.
 
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This is so sad to see for such a young man, thoughts with his family and especially his wife and children.

I've also struggled hugely in the past with depression and suicidal ideation, it got so bad I went to talk to my GP and was the best thing I ever did. She signed me off sick from work, referred me for counselling which took a while to arrange but when it happened, it transformed my life and the way I think about things. I'm not "better", but I'm definitely better able to deal with everything and if you're struggling then I really do recommend talking to someone like your GP or the Samaritans.

Really pleased you are in a better place now and have helped learn some coping mechanisms. Thanks for sharing your story
 
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I too have run close to the "edge" after having been through and seen some traumatic experiences. However strong or stable we think our lives are, I do feel each and everyone of us could turn a different corner or whatever metaphor suits you, and suddenly find your world falling apart.

Thanks for sharing. Our brains are as fragile at times as other parts of our body. Talking definitely helps
 

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Hello all

On Saturday Vs Norwich please join in with a minutes applause, in the 17th minute, for Brentford supporter Colin Ryan

Colin and his kids were often on the same bus to games from Hanwell as me, he was a lovely amiable person but unfortunately recently this world became too much for him. He was just 47 years old.

He struggled with depression, many would not have known about it. And men are not very good at talking about mental health issues

Colin’s wife Annie is keen that the applause is used to celebrate his life but also to highlight the issues that many others at the game might be struggling with in silence

Please reach out to someone if you want to talk and let’s keep checking on each other

And please join in on the 17th minute

The club and Peter Gilham have been brilliant btw and that’s something that makes me especially proud.

RIP Colin. Come on you Bees 🐝

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So sad to hear. It seems to have stirred something in a lot of people who've suffered in some way or other.
 
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To condorman and who ever is reading his post about Colin Ryan the reply by Yankee B is from my wife who felt compelled to reach out and register on GPG after I showed her condorman's post. She is a mental health and bereavement councillor who has helped so many people, so what I'm trying to say is if anyone reaches out to her they can knowing they can have complete trust in her as she never breaks a confidence as I can confirm that all her years of counselling she has never told me about anyone, well just one but that was after there time was over and it was very moving and I never knew who the person was.
 

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It's the one who don't comment we need to keep an eye on ❤ Anyone can message me should they wish to do so, I know you may feel like your thoughts don't warrant a conversation, trust me, they do....please reach out x
 
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To condorman and who ever is reading his post about Colin Ryan the reply by Yankee B is from my wife who felt compelled to reach out and register on GPG after I showed her condorman's post. She is a mental health and bereavement councillor who has helped so many people, so what I'm trying to say is if anyone reaches out to her they can knowing they can have complete trust in her as she never breaks a confidence as I can confirm that all her years of counselling she has never told me about anyone, well just one but that was after there time was over and it was very moving and I never knew who the person was.

That’s very kind of your wife
 
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Hello folks, just another reminder to please clap today in the 17th minute. Thank you all in advance and your honest and open comments on this thread.
 
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