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Condolences Horshambees. I lost my father nearly 30 years ago and have often had moments of regret when thinking about him (and my mother come to that). Over time these moments give way to warm and happier thoughts; I’m sure they will remain the abiding memories for you in time.
 
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This morning at 7am I got a phone call from my brother informing me that my Dad had passed away.
He had cancer that had spread from the spine to the brain and eventually everywhere else that finally his body just shut down. He was 82.Me mum, who is 80,had taken care of him for the last 14 weeks all day and everyday.
This is the man I pestered to take me too Griffin Park until he finally gave in and walked with me through the turnstiles for a lifetime of support.
He was a good man who enjoyed his life.
He was at times a proper laugh and I always enjoyed a beer, a coffee and just time with him
On many occasions we would not see eye to eye on issues, but we agreed to disagree.
I was a pain, an embarrassment and at times the polar opposite of him.
He could walk away he told me, but not me.I found that hard.
Maybe he was right, maybe I was too.
RIP Dad.
Thanks.
One regret?
I wish I had known you better than I did.
Sad to read, thoughts are with you and the family. RIP
 

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sorry to read this, HB. best wishes, and may your dad RIP.
 

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Lovely words. Sorry for your loss Horsham
 
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Wholesale response from GPGers shows how highly thought of you are. As other have suggested, these qualities must have come from your dad !
 

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So sorry for your loss, My story is very similar to yours.
Lost my dad three years ago, The pain will ease over time but not a moment goes by when I do not think of him.
The Bees will do him proud!
 

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Condolences Horsham. Through personal experience I can assure you the grief eventually dissipates. The sad memories are soon superseded by the good ones.

The memories of my Dad make me roar with laughter much more more than they make me cry these days. And believe me, there's plenty to cry about.

Hang in there mate. Our Dads live on through us, their values, their daft ideas and their love of the Bees.

They always will.
 
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Today is the day we bury my Dad.
2 o'clock this afternoon Hillside Cemetery in Horsham.
I popped into the Chapel of rest yesterday afternoon to sit and talk about stuff.
Basically a thank you for being me dad and apologies for some of the stuff I got up too when I was younger.
It could not have been easy tbh.
Remembering good times, good laughs, a beer and just general chit chat.
Days at football, days at Epsom, Sandown, Goodwood and by the river banks along the Thames where we fished so happily and care free.
I asked him if he remembered my 9lb Barbel from Hampton Court and I am sure he said "how could I forget".
But of course it was me saying those things.
It's what I wanted to hear.

We will get through today and we will be up tonight as I can't think of anywhere else I would want to be tonight, but in my old Manor surrounded by people I may know and I may not.
Watching a team I know very very well.
 

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Today is the day we bury my Dad.
2 o'clock this afternoon Hillside Cemetery in Horsham.
I popped into the Chapel of rest yesterday afternoon to sit and talk about stuff.
Basically a thank you for being me dad and apologies for some of the stuff I got up too when I was younger.
It could not have been easy tbh.
Remembering good times, good laughs, a beer and just general chit chat.
Days at football, days at Epsom, Sandown, Goodwood and by the river banks along the Thames where we fished so happily and care free.
I asked him if he remembered my 9lb Barbel from Hampton Court and I am sure he said "how could I forget".
But of course it was me saying those things.
It's what I wanted to hear.

We will get through today and we will be up tonight as I can't think of anywhere else I would want to be tonight, but in my old Manor surrounded by people I may know and I may not.
Watching a team I know very very well.

My thoughts are with you today @horshambees 🙏
 

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Today is the day we bury my Dad.
2 o'clock this afternoon Hillside Cemetery in Horsham.
I popped into the Chapel of rest yesterday afternoon to sit and talk about stuff.
Basically a thank you for being me dad and apologies for some of the stuff I got up too when I was younger.
It could not have been easy tbh.
Remembering good times, good laughs, a beer and just general chit chat.
Days at football, days at Epsom, Sandown, Goodwood and by the river banks along the Thames where we fished so happily and care free.
I asked him if he remembered my 9lb Barbel from Hampton Court and I am sure he said "how could I forget".
But of course it was me saying those things.
It's what I wanted to hear.

We will get through today and we will be up tonight as I can't think of anywhere else I would want to be tonight, but in my old Manor surrounded by people I may know and I may not.
Watching a team I know very very well.
Lot of things there that resonate with me, especially football at Celtic, at Palace and at Griffin Park.

I'm just sorry I never had a beer with my Dad. He died when I was 22 and had been seriously ill for about 5 years before that. This weekend is the time when I remember him and my mum most: he would have been 111 last Sunday and she would have been 104 next Sunday. So I go up to the cemetery near Richmond Hill and have a chat with them, along with my wife and son. God bless you both, and sorry for hijacking your thread.
 

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Not trying to hijack Horsham’s lovely post about his dad, but on the way to the game this afternoon I’m passing by Hanworth Crem to lay some flowers for my late mum .. 8 years tomorrow she passed. It was her who first took me to Brentford games back in the early 70’s. I’ll be forever grateful.
 

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Today is the day we bury my Dad.
2 o'clock this afternoon Hillside Cemetery in Horsham.
I popped into the Chapel of rest yesterday afternoon to sit and talk about stuff.
Basically a thank you for being me dad and apologies for some of the stuff I got up too when I was younger.
It could not have been easy tbh.
Remembering good times, good laughs, a beer and just general chit chat.
Days at football, days at Epsom, Sandown, Goodwood and by the river banks along the Thames where we fished so happily and care free.
I asked him if he remembered my 9lb Barbel from Hampton Court and I am sure he said "how could I forget".
But of course it was me saying those things.
It's what I wanted to hear.

We will get through today and we will be up tonight as I can't think of anywhere else I would want to be tonight, but in my old Manor surrounded by people I may know and I may not.
Watching a team I know very very well.
Hope all went well. Tough day. I bet you did him proud.
 

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Today is the day we bury my Dad.
2 o'clock this afternoon Hillside Cemetery in Horsham.
I popped into the Chapel of rest yesterday afternoon to sit and talk about stuff.
Basically a thank you for being me dad and apologies for some of the stuff I got up too when I was younger.
It could not have been easy tbh.
Remembering good times, good laughs, a beer and just general chit chat.
Days at football, days at Epsom, Sandown, Goodwood and by the river banks along the Thames where we fished so happily and care free.
I asked him if he remembered my 9lb Barbel from Hampton Court and I am sure he said "how could I forget".
But of course it was me saying those things.
It's what I wanted to hear.

We will get through today and we will be up tonight as I can't think of anywhere else I would want to be tonight, but in my old Manor surrounded by people I may know and I may not.
Watching a team I know very very well.
Lovely words and trust he heard them, be strong mate, savour all the happy memories, forget the others
 

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Hope the Bees did him proud last night, I'm sure you did.

I actually sat with my 85 year old Dad today for the first time in many, many years. He's an ex new-roader and now season ticket in the north stand. He sat with me in the South stand last night. You have to cherish these moments while you can.
 
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Hope the Bees did him proud last night, I'm sure you did.

I actually sat with my 85 year old Dad today for the first time in many, many years. He's an ex new-roader and now season ticket in the north stand. He sat with me in the South stand last night. You have to cherish these moments while you can.
Enjoy every minute you can because your dad will want too as well.
 

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Apologies - only just caught this news, almost a month late. The GPG sure is a big place to navigate around. Thoughts and love with you and your family horshambees. ❤️
 
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