- 15 Feb 2015
- Reaction score
I have been unsure of whether to post....but have decided to as my family had a really unpleasant experience during the second half of the QPR match- so much so that I am unable to enjoy this great result and am seriously questioning whether I will ever attend another away match.
My family consisting of myself, husband and 20 year old son had tickets in the upper tier, block y3, row m- so we where second to back row but just left of the goal. As the game started, several rows in front of us stood up, meaning we did as well, this was not a problem for us and the 20 year old really enjoyed it.The problem occurred at the start of the second half - a gentleman (mid 50's?) came and sat behind my son (he had not be there in the first half), as second half commenced and we stood up to see, he said to my son "your not going to stand up, I can't see," and tried to man handle my son back into his seat. I intervened and explained to him, that we understood that, the rules in a football stadium expect you to sit down but we were standing because of the people in front of us were standing. He basically said - he didn't care, he was going to sit in the seat he had paid for and expected us to do the same.
I tried to reason with him further by suggesting that he sat in an empty seat further down the stand or that he go and talk to the people who where standing and ask them to sit down, meaning we all could sit. He refused to do both - his solution was for us to sit down and not see the match so he would be able to see. I could see that the matter was not going to be resolved, so I returned to watching the match.
This is were it started to turn nasty- he tried to provoke us by poking us in the back, trying to remove the hat I was wearing and clapping very loudly by our ears. We ignored him......so he then decided to up his aggressive tactics......when QPR nearly scored (the attempt before they did score).....we had all gasped.....hands on head and I remember say to my son "I thought that had gone in", a voice came from behind me....."Did they, I couldn't see" and then he put both hands on my son's back and shove him so hard - it sent him flying over the rows in front of us and flying down the upper tier. Fortunately, I reacted instinctively and grabbed my son's arm and was able to pull him back- my son was both extremely shocked and angry and turned to confront the man. I was still holding onto to my son and shouting "no,no,no" and I was able to calm him. My son, then went into shock and sat down, saying that he would rather not see the match, than go through any more of those bullying tactics.
I then turned to the man, who was now smirking, thinking that he had got what he wanted - what he hadn't bargained for -was a mother's anger, tied in with 28 years of teaching experience- I know how to use both my voice and facial expressions very effectively. I am also only 5'2, so with him sitting and me standing in the row below, we were both at the same head height - looking him straight in the eyes, finger pointing to emphasise every word- don't ever,ever,ever,ever do that again or I will call the police. He at first claimed that he didn't do anything, I pointed to CCTV camera about 5m away.
By now, some of the other supporters had realised something had happened and I explained what had occurred- some of them offered to squeeze up so my son could stand with them. The bloke was still sitting and my parting words to him were - if you can do that to a fellow supporter, I dread to think what you would to people who weren't.
My son,still shaken, choose to remain standing with us and after a few minutes this horrible aggressive man decided his best course of action was to stand and watch also. I fully understand the rules about standing in a football ground( my husband prefers to sit because of his knees) and if it had been some who was elderly or had a reason why they couldn't stand - we would have found a solution. We did try with this man but he was having none of it.
I have been a Brentford supporter for over 40 years and a season ticket holder for 30 and I can honestly say, if that had been my first experience at a football match, it would definitely have been my last.
Thank you for reading this post and sorry that it is so long.
Why not report this to the club and suggest they have a word with him? You should be able to give them his seat number and they should then be able to identify him.